Let’s talk about mom dating. A friend and I were laughing the other day about the fine line between approaching another mom at the park or playground for a play date, and straight up hitting on them. I mean, in both instances you’d be asking for a name, number, and getting a general feel for mutual interest.
In her book Live Fast Die Hot Jenny Mollen spends a chapter talking about mom dating. (If you haven’t read her books, check them out. She’s hilarious.) She talks about one particular mom date gone very wrong, in which her “date” takes off and disappears for hours, leaving Jenny to take care of her wild child at the park. Clearly this is a #momdatefail. Luckily, I can’t say I’ve had any major mom date fails but I’ve had some great #momdatewins!
Making friends is such a tricky and sometimes difficult thing once you’re beyond the high school and college/university years and have settled in to family life. Before I moved to Florida, I’d had all my friends back home since elementary school or university so I didn’t often venture outside my solid, dependable, awesome circle. It happened on occasion, but I didn’t feel the need. After moving to Florida, however, I was friendless and had no family around so felt a void in the companionship department. Yes, I had my husband but we all know at a certain point you get sick of looking at each other’s mug and need someone else sometimes. It always helps having someone else to vent to and laugh with.
I’ve compiled a list of qualities important for a great mom date and I’m realizing they’re not far off from regular dating requirements. Basically, they’re qualities that would make you swipe right. 😉 Comment below and add more if you have any!
- A child around the same age is always a bonus, borderline necessary.
- Mutual interests. I’m talking about interests beyond your kids. Sports, books, drinking wine, whatever floats your boat.
- Great sense of humour. Can laugh about each other’s kids smearing poop all over the walls. Can be self aware enough to chuckle about this precarious mom dating situation you’re both in.
- Transportation. Yeah, this mom dating life can be shallow but let’s face it you’ve gotta have a way to meet up at the park!
- Somewhat similar parenting styles helps… I can’t see a Stage 5 clinger helicopter mom and one who loses track of their child only to find them eating dirt/leaves on the other side of the park (I’m describing myself and my child) getting along smashingly.
- Good family values/similar values. I mean, variety is the spice of life so you don’t have to match up exactly, but someone who’s kind and loves their family is kind of important in a mom date.
- Someone who’s normal about social media. We all know the over-sharer and then the person who’s never been on Facebook or Instagram. Meeting somewhere in the middle is always fun.
- Close proximity. Neighbours make great mom dates because it’s just so darn convenient! I’d go for someone within decent driving distance who is awesome. 🙂
- Giving and generous. Someone who will BE there for you either during the tough times or just for handy helpful things like watching your child for a few minutes while you pee.